I have Torres' body, but I want Ronaldo's

It's another emo entry in yet another emo day for me. It was just a long meeting in the morning and then some writing in the afternoon. Somehow, the content of the conversation between my gay buddy and I the evening before, just bothered me for the entire day.

"What should a guy do to be the leader of the household when the gal is much stronger spiritually?" (words might have been different but the meaning was it)

"I don't know~" and I didn't think that it mattered. My point was simple: I don't believe that the guy must be a leader in every area, the gal may be higher educated, more sensible in finance, more structured and mature when making decisions, ... so why not more mature spiritually? I have heard too much preaching from my church about wives standing behind the husbands or the men to lead the way but I could never be satisfied that life is so simple.

I spoke with Jim after our gym-session and he shared that it is important for his gf to be a Christian because they would not be sharing the same values otherwise. He highlighted that he had planned to start a business with non-Christian friends but the values were just different that everything ended before it could even begin. I got his point but then, I have gotten attached with Christian gals who ended up worse than non-believers (or pre-believers if it sounds more accurate).

Quoting Thio Li-Ann that if someone claims to be a Christian, I'd have a much much higher expectation of her for that matter. I know I'm far from perfect but everyone looks for a "perfect" other half, don't they?

That brings to the question on where to draw the line too. As long as someone is baptized, it'd be ok (according to my Mum); or must it be "equally yoked" to the core - same amount of time spent on QTs, similar family background, both as good (or bad) looking, etc? I mean, if one is to judge then the term "equally-yoked" must be adhered to no matter what. With that, Melvin's question would be invalid because the relationship should not take place if the gal is so much more matured spiritually.

I have seen many who get attached with non-Christians, while proclaiming that the non-Christian bf or gf understands and will join them to church. I listened and received the confirmation again and again that it wouldn't work. I am not against dating non-Christians, come on, my Mum didn't go to church till she met Dad and I can see that she reads the Bible more than my Dad these days.

My point is that, just be cool with the fact that one is dating someone of another faith, without trying to justify at all. As for me, I am fussy without adding in the "must be Christian" requirement, thanks to my years in Tokyo that raised my expectations (silly). I wonder if raising the bar higher is really the thing I need.