leeched

I was made to pay for my dog's haircut. My mum just asked (with little signature) if I could help to finance her haircut today as I was getting out of the bathroom this morning. I came to alert.

Well, my mum has been leeching on me because she has this impression that I earn a lot and that paying for this and that should be alright (on top of a reasonable amount for housekeeping from me). This is how I got started to pay for my dog's medicine (I offered to because my parents were keen to save on it), my dog's snacks (I can't remember promising it but my mum insisted that I did) and now, for her haircut.

I wouldn't mind it if my Dad was the one asking because he was not so particular in all these: he would pay for something and I would pay for another thing, it worked fine. But the same couldn't be said of my mum because she would have everything allocated properly.

do you mean just this one time or do you refer to all the subsequent haircuts?

it was the latter.

could I have said "no". It is different from treating them a meal or buying a gift, because it is a recurring expenditure with no end in sight.

I had dinner with my cousin (we shared the same maternal grandmother) and we both ranted on our hard lives (lol). She was convinced that my aunt took her as an asset which I felt was saddening.

I have always maintained that parents should not take kids as a form of investment but a decision to bring more fulfillment into their lives, to bring completion of the family unit but I guess, not many parents think of it this way.

I remembered that my mum told me to study hard, so that I could earn big bucks for myself but she is now singing a different tune - she's interested in my salary too. My cousin asked if I would have studied as hard if not for the "encouragement", my response was that it wouldn't have made a difference because I was already doing my best. It's just sickening sometimes. I still feel the pinch to buy new clothes and all for myself, mainly because I am poor.

Irritating.