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MY colleague just broke up with his girlfriend over the weekend. He said that it was inevitable, he is a Buddhist and she's a Christian. I asked him why it took her a year to decide and it appeared that they were avoiding the topic. He told me that the Bible said Christians should marry only another Christian.

I said, "nah, the Bible said something even stricter than that"

I am still struggling to believe that the religion thingie matters to such an extent. It is tough to be with someone who has different values but even as a Christians, I disagree with many of the doctrines and ideas. I believe that relationships call for something deeper than all these, beyond agreeing to appear in church every Sunday or to send the kids to ACS or MGS. I know that it could be meant for protection of my own faith, that I will not have to compromise my Christian walk because of the other half but when I had tasted and knew that my faith depends on my own relationship with God, then this doesn't really apply.

I could have met the perfect one a little too soon,and she is not exactly a Christian. I had never felt that the break-up was due to differences in views or in our religion. I just didn't do well enough back then.

I felt for my colleague but I was in no position to make any judgement or comment. I jested that I have forgotten the feeling of being attached and honestly, though it is fun to go out with someone I like, I enjoy the 'single' tag all the time.

Perhaps I haven't met "the one for me" yet but getting attached for the sake of getting attached is just too stressful for me. And being unable to break up for the fear of being single is also frightening. If I just have to explain, "I haven't met anyone who could give me the 'skip a heartbeat' moment for some time; not that there was no one but I couldn't get near enough to do anything"